tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-41823201556105463122024-02-20T18:16:57.236-08:00Full Life, Good DeathA place to celebrate living fully/consciously and dying gracefully/well.Nancy Manahan and Becky Bohanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09599183856626258686noreply@blogger.comBlogger37125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4182320155610546312.post-44061381721987494932014-10-06T14:34:00.002-07:002014-10-07T09:11:44.673-07:00No Green Graves in the Heart of Minneapolis -- YET!<br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Entrance of Pioneers and Soldiers Memorial Cemetery</td></tr>
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Minneapolis is not selling any empty plots. No chance of a green burial so close to home! <br />
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That's what I learned when my friend Ann Risch and I visited the oldest surviving burial ground in the city, a 15-minute bike ride from my home. Thousands of bodies have been removed from <a href="http://www.friendsofthecemetery.org/" target="_blank">Pioneers and Soldiers Memorial Cemetery</a>, leaving 7,000 empty plots owned by Minneapolis.<br />
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Pioneers and Soldiers opened in 1853 at Lake St. and Cedar Ave., the only Minnesota cemetery on the National Register of Historic Places. Founded by an abolitionist, it was one of the few unsegregated cemeteries of its time, the final resting place of African American businessmen, fire fighters, and Civil War veterans. For 25 years, it was the only Minneapolis cemetery that accepted bodies of those who died without money or family to bury them. Plots cost $1 dollar.<br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">See all the green space</td></tr>
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As the city's population boomed and its boundaries expanded, most of the burial plots were sold. In the early 20th century, with dwindling income from grave sales, the owners sent letters to descendants of people buried on the 20-acre site asking them to remove their relatives. Thousands of bodies were soon disinterred. <br />
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A civic campaign to save the cemetery from being turned into a public playground or sold to business interests for development succeeded. In 1927, the Minneapolis City Council voted to purchase the cemetery and implement improvements, including the current limestone and iron fence.<br />
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Could Minneapolis start offering those 7,000 empty plots for natural burial? What would be the requirements? No embalming, biodegradable caskets or shrouds, no concrete grave liners, and environmentally-friendly grave markers. Being a pioneer for green burials right in the city would be fitting for a cemetery that pioneered a desegregated burial ground over a century ago!<br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Tattered flag at Pioneers and Soldiers Cemetery October 2014</td></tr>
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Before calling to inquire about a plot, however, you might catch a summer open air concert or enjoy Cinema in the Cemetery. The final movie of 2014, "Thing from Another World," will be screened October 8 at dusk. Gates open at 5:30. Tickets are $8; kids under 12 free. Proceeds support the restoration of the stone and iron fence. You can Adopt-A-Picket for $30, contribute any amount toward a badly-needed new flag (I gave the caretaker $20), or take a historical tour of Pioneers and Soldiers Cemetery through Continuing Education.<br />
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For more information, visit <a href="http://friendsofthecemetery.org/">friendsofthecemetery.org</a> or contact the City of Minneapolis’ Division of Public Works at (612) 729-8484 <br />
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Nancy<br />
<br />Nancy Manahan and Becky Bohanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09599183856626258686noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4182320155610546312.post-65303096067746486022014-06-17T06:27:00.000-07:002014-07-07T07:51:48.115-07:00Final Footprint Eco-Caskets and Natural Burial<table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: left; margin-right: 1em; text-align: left;"><tbody>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Lynn Redgrave's Ecoffin fair trade wicker casket </td></tr>
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I first heard of Final Footprint four years ago, when newspapers reported that British actor Lynn Redgrave had chosen an Ecoffin fair trade certified wicker casket for her funeral. (See August 10, 2010 <a href="http://fulllifegooddeath.blogspot.com/search?updated-min=2010-01-01T00:00:00-08:00&updated-max=2011-01-01T00:00:00-08:00&max-results=4" target="_blank">blog post</a>.) I contacted the American Ecoffin distributor, Jane Hillhouse. Jane imports caskets and urns made of sustainable materials and has a vision of natural burial grounds all across the US, as has happened in her native England.<br />
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This April, Becky and I visited Jane Hillhouse at her home in Half Moon Bay, just south of San Francisco. Jane walked us into a large storage unit filled with merchandise and unwrapped an exquisite rattan, banana leaf, and bamboo casket. We helped her line the casket with organic cotton fabric. Back at her home, she showed us a woven wicker design and beautiful children's caskets.</div>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Jane Hillhouse with rattan, banana leaf, bamboo casket</td></tr>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Adult and children's caskets from Final Footprints</td></tr>
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Jane can fold down the back seats of her Prius and load <br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Jane loading a casket into <br />
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an adult casket into it by herself, demonstrating that a family can easily transport their loved one to the cemetery rather than hire a mortician to perform this final act of love.<br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Jane Hillhouse helping find affordable caskets<br />
for landslide victims in Washington state</td></tr>
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As Becky and I were about to continue our drive to Napa, Jane's phone rang. It was a woman from the sheriff's department in Washington state's Snohomish county, hit several days earlier by a devastating mud slide. Many families needed to bury their dead, and some were looking for alternatives to costly funeral home caskets. Could Jane ship eco-coffins to Washington? Jane offered the families a discount on any casket in stock. (Final Footprint ships coffins all over the United States and Canada,)<br />
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Two months later we were with Jane at the Funeral Consumers Alliance national conference in Minneapolis. She had an eco-casket on display for the almost 100 North American funeral activists, including several members of the Minnesota Threshold Network. <br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">L to R: Minnesota State Rep. Carolyn Laine,<br />
home funeral educator Jerrigrace Lyons of <a href="http://www.finalpassages.org/" target="_blank">Final Passages</a>,<br />
Nancy Manahan, Jane Hillhouse, Becky Bohan</td></tr>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Prairie Oaks Memorial Eco-Garden hearse at the cemetery</td></tr>
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On the last day of the FCA conference, Jane took her Final Footprint casket to Prairie Oaks Memorial Eco-Gardens in Inver Grove Heights, Minnesota's first natural burial grounds. <br />
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The owner Tony Weber gave FCA attendees a tour of Prairie Oaks, including a recent natural grave, with no embalming, no metal or hardwood casket, no concrete grave liner, and no imported granite headstone. Just a body lying gently in the earth in a biodegradable shroud or an eco-casket like one of Jane Hillhouse's, beneath an oak tree, providing bio-nourishment to the forest and prairie. The location can be marked with a tree or a stone that's native to the area or with GPS coordinates.<br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Recent green grave at Prairie Oaks</td></tr>
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For me, green is the way to go.<br />
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More information about green burials is at:<br />
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Final Footprints Eco-Caskets and Natural Burial: <a href="http://www.finalfootprints.com/">www.finalfootprints.com</a><br />
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Prairie Oaks Eco Memorial Gardens, <a href="http://www.mngreengraves.com/">www.mngreengraves.com</a>, is featured in the February 2014 issue of <em>Natural Awakenings Magazine</em>. It includes a graphic illustrating the main differences between a conventional burial and a green burial: <a href="http://www.natwincities.com/Twin-Cities/February-2014/Prairie-Oaks-Memorial-Eco-Gardens-Offers-Green-Burials/" target="_blank"><span style="color: #0072c6;">www.natwincities.com/Twin-Cities/February-2014/Prairie-Oaks-Memorial-Eco-Gardens-Offers-Green-Burials/</span></a><br />
Minnesota Threshold Network, <a href="http://www.mnthresholdnetwork.blogpress.com/">www.mnthresholdnetwork.blogpress.com</a><br />
Funeral Consumers Alliance of Minnesota: <a href="http://www.fcaofmn.org/"><span style="color: #3d85c6;">www.fcaofmn.org</span></a><br />
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Nancy Manahan<br />
Minnesota Threshold Network memberNancy Manahan and Becky Bohanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09599183856626258686noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4182320155610546312.post-66502019096779779712014-05-03T11:59:00.001-07:002014-05-17T16:21:21.116-07:00Ancient Family Tombstones in Malibu<table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: left; margin-right: 1em; text-align: left;"><tbody>
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A group of school children blush as they enter the private room of The Victorious Youth, a rare bronze life-sized statue of a naked athlete crowning himself with an olive wreath. The 10-year olds elbow each other, trying not to stare at the fully-depicted genitals. Their teacher patiently points out ALL aspects of the statue.<br />
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The Victorious Youth is one of the most stunning Greek, Roman, and Etruscan works at the sumptuous Getty Villa in Malibu, CA. Situated on 64 acres overlooking the Pacific Ocean, the museum is a re-creation of a first-century Roman country house that was buried when Vesuvious erupted.<br />
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As we wait for the museum to open at 10am, Becky and I explore the outdoor amphitheater, herb and fruit tree garden, and the peristyle (a colonnade in a building around an internal open-air court and garden). Fish swim in the long shallow pool where Roman children would have splashed on a hot day in the original Villa dei Papiri.<br />
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Since Becky loves all things ancient, she is in heaven. But the most fascinating pieces for me relate to death, for example, the rare first century Roman-Egyptian mummy of Herakleides. The young man's name is inscribed over his toes, the painted wooden covering of his corpse a beautiful portrait showing luminous eyes, aristocratic nose, and neatly-trimmed beard. CT scans show he was about 20 years old when he died.<br />
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Even more unusual are the tombstones depicting the deceased interacting with their families, something we've never seen before in any cemetery or museum in any country. One shows an older couple talking to their son. The father seems to be making a point, perhaps giving some final advice to his heir. But the young man is not looking at his father. He and his mother gaze into each other's eyes, their hands joined.<br />
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Another tombstone, made in Athens in 400 BCE, depicts a man with his battle shield and helmet, perhaps indicating that he died in battle. He seems to be shaking his wife's hand. According to the names on the headstone, this is Philoxenos and Philoumene, their final farewell etched in perpetuity.<br />
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As more people today are choosing green burials, which require no headstones, perhaps contemporary cemeteries could recoup that lost business by reviving the ancient practice of carving enduring family portraits in marble!<br />
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<br />Nancy Manahan and Becky Bohanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09599183856626258686noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4182320155610546312.post-86411978760064134512012-09-21T08:50:00.000-07:002012-09-21T08:50:09.333-07:00Green Funerals 101<div>
The publication of our book <em>Living Consciously, Dying Gracefully</em>, has opened the world of green funerals to us. Although our book doesn’t advocate for green funerals, it depicts our sister-in-law's home death, the decision not to embalm, a family-arranged cremation, and a family-directed wake and funeral. </div>
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A green funeral is one in which no embalming takes place and a body is buried without any toxic material being introduced to the earth, such as that found in standard metal and hardwood coffins, concrete burial vaults, and marble headstones. A whole movement has sprung up in the past decade that advocates an environmentally friendly way of handling people’s remains.</div>
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Becky and I have become more and more interested in eco-burial for ourselves, although at this point she would prefer some type of cremation—for herself and for me. Luckily, an alternative to clame-based fossil-fuel intensive cremation now is available in Minnesota.</div>
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One of the best, most comprehensive articles I’ve read on environmentally-friendly funerals was a 2008 piece in <em>Cincinnati CityBeat</em>. It included interviews with mourners, ministers, and funeral directors. The journalist even considers the circumstances of gay and lesbian couples, something I haven’t seen in other reports on green funerals.</div>
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I’ve quoted two paragraphs below to give a taste. The second paragraph echoes my brother Bill Manahan's foreword in <em><a href="http://www.nanbec.com/">Living Consciously, Dying Gracefully: A Journey with Cancer and Beyond</a></em>. </div>
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<span style="color: #000099;">“Die the Way You Live: Befriending Death and Planning for the Inevitable” by Stephen Carter-Novotni</span></div>
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<span style="color: #000099;">When local chiropractor Pamela Tickel´s husband Will passed away in 2006, she was convinced that he should be laid to rest in a way that honored their commitment to the environment and a natural lifestyle. Will, also a chiropractor, was buried without embalming or a vault at Ramsey Creek preserve in South Carolina, one of just a handful of green burial grounds in the U.S. </span></div>
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<span style="color: #000099;"> “When we had a home birth 25 years ago, people thought we were crazy, and now people are very accepting and interested,” Pamela says, explaining that even though green burial is foreign to most, her paradigm has shifted and contemporary burial practices seem odd to her now.</span><br />
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Nancy Manahan and Becky Bohanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09599183856626258686noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4182320155610546312.post-68908212401872823222012-09-21T08:30:00.002-07:002012-09-21T08:51:42.795-07:00Reduce Carbon Footprint with “Flameless Cremation”Minnesota is leading the way in “green cremation,” a flameless process of reducing a body to its basic elements using alkaline hydrolysis. The Mayo Clinic Medical School has been using hydrolysis in its body donor program for several years, but last month, the first commercial unit in the US was opened in Stillwater, MN. <br />
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For a Minneapolis Star Tribune article, see <a href="http://www.startribune.com/local/162436556.html">http://www.startribune.com/local/162436556.html</a><br />
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For a KARE-11 TV story, see <a href="http://www.kare11.com/news/article/983169/391/Minnesotas-first-green-cremation-center-opens">http://www.kare11.com/news/article/983169/391/Minnesotas-first-green-cremation-center-opens</a>Nancy Manahan and Becky Bohanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09599183856626258686noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4182320155610546312.post-42182662781799460432011-05-05T07:53:00.000-07:002011-05-05T08:01:44.925-07:00Radio show on on home funeral, green burials, and the new MN lawFor a free download of the KFAI radio show Becky and I did with MN State Representative Carolyn Laine on home funeral, green burials, and the new law that gives Minnesotans more choices for caring for our own dead, go to <a href="http://rcpt.yousendit.com/1110522769/b30b198f524539954d7281c3b6807917" target="_blank">http://rcpt.yousendit.com/1110522769/b30b198f524539954d7281c3b6807917</a> . This Health Notes show, hosted by Kinshasha Kambui, was rebroadcast last week with a live update from Rep. Laine. The link will be active until May 17, 2011.<br /><br />NancyNancy Manahan and Becky Bohanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09599183856626258686noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4182320155610546312.post-6514995991774900502011-05-05T07:36:00.000-07:002011-05-05T07:53:34.011-07:00An Ancient Green Cemetery<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjzDeINGXat9VHLyWkHe0q-dWbQuDsu80x_KJ4sJIID3Dz49y4nwYmXBY_6vILlrIWxKZ7GIYSYRQvuD3eMGR2l7Kzm8VRkbhFj1Lf5W7VLKxG4cqPvlt3V6ROPW8hcTf-WEZSEFLJKz48/s1600/Kerameikos+2.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5603244433643920338" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 240px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 180px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjzDeINGXat9VHLyWkHe0q-dWbQuDsu80x_KJ4sJIID3Dz49y4nwYmXBY_6vILlrIWxKZ7GIYSYRQvuD3eMGR2l7Kzm8VRkbhFj1Lf5W7VLKxG4cqPvlt3V6ROPW8hcTf-WEZSEFLJKz48/s320/Kerameikos+2.jpg" border="0" /></a> As Becky and I approach Kerameikos, we know it is different from the other archeological sites we had visited in Greece. It is the land that received many thousands of bodies for over 1500 years, the most important cemetery of ancient Athens. The earliest tombs date from the Early Bronze Age (2700-2000 BCE). Athenians continued burying their dead there until approximately the 6th century CE (Current Era).<br /><br />On display in a small museum at the entrance are prehistoric grave offerings, tall urns that held ashes of the deceased, and archaic tombstones inscribed with expressions of grief over the loss of loved ones. One ornate chest is labeled ossuary, used where burial space was scarce. A body is buried in a temporary grave, and after some years <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi07t1qIo7trPPEuNzlnFfRXiusBCkNEeXlLlXwZnFuTndW3bX850jBYej9X4g45aFuz9TX9ZDlvfFe19dPhkGO43_fu_okCSNF4zgds5Uluc2MGVBNMR-nlE4QslwgOXIPts97SqUxOZk/s1600/DSCN3006.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5603241383377920626" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 240px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 320px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi07t1qIo7trPPEuNzlnFfRXiusBCkNEeXlLlXwZnFuTndW3bX850jBYej9X4g45aFuz9TX9ZDlvfFe19dPhkGO43_fu_okCSNF4zgds5Uluc2MGVBNMR-nlE4QslwgOXIPts97SqUxOZk/s320/DSCN3006.JPG" border="0" /></a>the skeletal remains are removed and placed in the chest, making it is possible to store the remains of many people in a single tomb.<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi1sQQECvWKADhnjqS9gU_q8ZetcI1bbv-E_YdyqqXnrrz6NGOiAAslwnu8ZdG5-ONTz6oZizBw6hLXhzvXEItBazijmOiIoBcafgNiyEFS9jIzjkG2IwUmHS9mUBvtW0R-eJ5mnzJdeFCo/s1600/DSCN3006.JPG"></a><br /><br />At the far end of one room stands a graceful life-sized statue of Nemesis, the spirit of divine retribution against those who succumb to hubris (arrogance before the gods). Becky and I marvel again at the powerful Godesses and human females depicted in ancient Greek art as well as the sculptors' skill in chiseling such realistic draped clothing.<br /><br />The most interesting sign was about the Plague that struck in 430 BCE, killing thousands of Athenians. Physicians had no idea how to treat their patients and died themselves in large numbers. Each morning, the bodies were picked up, often near public fountains where the victims had tried to quench their terrible thirst. In violation of Athenian burial law, the corpses were dumped into a mass grave in Keramikos.<br /><br />Outside the museum, sun-drenched and tree-shaded paths wind through ancient gavesites and the foundations of buildings and walls. (The Acropolis with its magnificent temple to Athena, is visible in the background.) Although we don't see any families lounging on the grass, my mother would have recognized this as a "fine and private place" for a picnic. Proponents of natural cemeteries can applaud Athens <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj6-pp6GddNAeWb73E7fq8am6rUhUd6X8Rix_ygsArhhoycimwHDoEsxx4NSxgdiEGuzeeu5MFSwHIK3P58pS91f22Gaj5F9A8G6S1TFyIv-5m3e8xILmV5wQrlUxaJQuxopi_BTbeKqAo/s1600/DSCN3008.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5603241295450510530" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj6-pp6GddNAeWb73E7fq8am6rUhUd6X8Rix_ygsArhhoycimwHDoEsxx4NSxgdiEGuzeeu5MFSwHIK3P58pS91f22Gaj5F9A8G6S1TFyIv-5m3e8xILmV5wQrlUxaJQuxopi_BTbeKqAo/s320/DSCN3008.JPG" border="0" /></a>for maintaining this prime real estate as a public green space. Of course, Kerameikos was also green in the environmental sense: n<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEigKxsWCtxcsTA_vIOAXUuAaxkLVkxMSCMcCgqjEtlfwVSs_6sQa2fsALJ-VnecL_srhk1ncISdpgA2za7ZW0liqzxYKS8GCZINFk5zz2wKVEM65gGl2IiHtDWRVAgKlo9xTB_UWED0jcqF/s1600/DSCN3008.JPG"></a>o embalming fluids, metal caskets, or concrete burial vaults went into the earth here. The cemetery, however, was full of marble tombstones, which contemporary green burial grounds do not include.<br /><br />Once again, I'm reminded of "time's winged chariot hurrying near." Whether we succumb to hubris or live humbly, remorseless Nemisis pushes us toward the grave. May we drink deeply from the fountain and love our dear ones while we can.<br /><br />NancyNancy Manahan and Becky Bohanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09599183856626258686noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4182320155610546312.post-57623653445920613012011-04-06T10:02:00.000-07:002011-04-10T08:30:17.427-07:00Becky's article just published<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjUrNueMEX-EZGH9jRyQO3vY2g2DmJgz_q4b9qpSwNzdwyiIoIZ1CH7AQvMj3C3UQSkOlBGcz3HHACjKq8Z5SZBs9H-qAKgMsxDVfbs7vWPONiKZEKrkM3Nnh-JneRpXO-1fi9NaRW0dZk/s1600/HF3151_passed_House_4-6-10.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5593976565539807954" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 314px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 235px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjUrNueMEX-EZGH9jRyQO3vY2g2DmJgz_q4b9qpSwNzdwyiIoIZ1CH7AQvMj3C3UQSkOlBGcz3HHACjKq8Z5SZBs9H-qAKgMsxDVfbs7vWPONiKZEKrkM3Nnh-JneRpXO-1fi9NaRW0dZk/s320/HF3151_passed_House_4-6-10.JPG" border="0" /></a> Becky has an article in the premier issue of <span style="FONT-STYLE: italic">Natural Transitions Magazine</span> on how a few citizens from the <a href="http://mnthresholdnetwork.wordpress.com/">Minnesota Threshold Network </a>with no funding and little legislative experience managed to change Minnesota state funeral law<span style="FONT-STYLE: italic">.</span> <br /><div></div><br /><div>This first issue of <em>Natural Transitions Magazine</em> features beautiful graphics, interesting stories, and excellent resources on the home funeral movement and green burial movement in the US and other countries. To subscribe visit <a href="http://www.naturaltransitionsmagazine.com/">http://www.naturaltransitionsmagazine.com/</a>. To link to a preview, or buy a single issue, visit <a href="http://www.magcloud.com/browse/Issue/171570">www.magcloud.com/browse/Issue/171570</a></div><br /><div>Photo at Minnesota State Capitol, April 6, 2010. L to R: Heather Halen, Marianne Dietzel, Nancy Manahan, Rep. Carolyn Laine, Becky Bohan, Kim Pilgrim.</div>Nancy Manahan and Becky Bohanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09599183856626258686noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4182320155610546312.post-60223244862160918322010-08-20T16:36:00.000-07:002010-08-21T19:41:07.917-07:00Lynn Redgrave’s Eco-coffin<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhnUBsN8BbAoJ-ADLFSUhCWp9x8hpgIzIb2nKWqMsS8BO04Lo7LDEKeWxU4yBI-pNeHZoelZmlFQKeEOXcio2cu9ZQMrX9Gb5IS5LUMK35WmvV9SCRQjOAYuH_pE4sBNrhvHKSSId4dj5M/s1600/eco-bamboo+casket.png"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 189px; FLOAT: left; HEIGHT: 113px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5507649405537835266" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhnUBsN8BbAoJ-ADLFSUhCWp9x8hpgIzIb2nKWqMsS8BO04Lo7LDEKeWxU4yBI-pNeHZoelZmlFQKeEOXcio2cu9ZQMrX9Gb5IS5LUMK35WmvV9SCRQjOAYuH_pE4sBNrhvHKSSId4dj5M/s320/eco-bamboo+casket.png" /></a> Great Britain is way ahead of the United States, when it comes to green burial practices. Dotting the countryside from Devon to Yorkshire are 240 green cemeteries, free of toxic embalming fluids, metal coffins, and concrete vaults.<br /><br />For twenty years <a href="http://www.naturaldeath.org.uk/index.php?page=home">The Natural Death Centre </a>has educated British consumers about funeral choices outside the mainstream. NDC, which helped create the network of English woodland burial sites and runs the Association of Natural Burial Grounds, believes that “death lies at the heart of our humanity . . . and that if we so wish, we [can] face it on our own terms without the mediation of a doctor, priest or funeral director.”<br /><br />The Natural Death Centre plans to investigate “new technologies to replace gas cremators, . . . to increase the dialogue between palliative care and the funeral industry, to assist our colleagues in other countries to achieve what the NDC has achieved, to hold the spiritual middle ground between fundamental religion and fundamental atheism and to continue to challenge the taboos surrounding death.” I love this vision for the future of the home funeral/green burial movement.<br /><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEir3CwYSeOTfyq96PSq3ZNsEXqsbidnZZD1mhKsx1jYbKNHg4ekpHA2CF6P6uGAZgt0-P35mGtQpNiN6gTXjMT5jKixBjb0KUzt8bO7eAi7oHELgHrr-n2b5NEKysC_c9Zok9A4l7HG-DY/s1600/Lynn+Redgrave.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 213px; FLOAT: left; HEIGHT: 320px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5507648432107165282" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEir3CwYSeOTfyq96PSq3ZNsEXqsbidnZZD1mhKsx1jYbKNHg4ekpHA2CF6P6uGAZgt0-P35mGtQpNiN6gTXjMT5jKixBjb0KUzt8bO7eAi7oHELgHrr-n2b5NEKysC_c9Zok9A4l7HG-DY/s320/Lynn+Redgrave.jpg" /></a>In the US, organizations like the <a href="http://www.funerals.org/">Funeral Consumers Alliance </a>and the <a href="http://www.greenburialcouncil.org/">Green Burial Council </a>are infusing a new ethic into the funeral industry, one rooted in transparency, accountability, and ecological responsibility.<br />A recent example of an eco-funeral was that of Oscar-nominated actress <a href="http://www.redgrave.com/">Lynn Redgrave</a>, who requested a bamboo coffin made by the British Fair Trade company, <a href="http://ecoffinsusa.com/home.htm">Ecoffins</a>. Bamboo, unlike regular wood, is highly sustainable; it regenerates rapidly after harvesting -- no replanting necessary. Ecoffins made from bamboo, willow, banana leaf, and pine are available in the US from <a href="http://www.finalfootprint.com/">Final Footprint</a>, the company that provided Lynn Redgrave’s coffin, pictured above ($420 plus delivery).<br /><br />In Minneapolis, there will be a free screening of an award-winning documentary film about the conscious death and inspiring home funeral of an environmental activist August 25 at Southdale Public Library at 7pm. At his request, Jack Heckelman’s plain pine coffin was built by his niece. For more details, visit the <a href="http://mnthresholdnetwork.wordpress.com/">Minnesota Threshold Network </a>blog.<br /><br /><br />Photo of Redgrave by Annabel Clark, <a href="http://www.redgrave.com/">http://www.redgrave.com/</a>Nancy Manahan and Becky Bohanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09599183856626258686noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4182320155610546312.post-11107325572307024402010-04-30T16:12:00.000-07:002010-04-30T16:33:49.647-07:00Honor the Earth in Life and Death<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgU4dkNup3ScQu3FEMF342YRtT3PqwxJcQxJCHws2By3Awu_ZAFecdIWG5PLGF7Upc_HEfw2jYF4WGNXs5H8t1S1BKj1IK84rY3tEL6Zm0NFwWPmso2vWVfTTbwpxzUsTE96ijVvy5qtgQ/s1600/Jan.+1,+2010+dawn+Mayan+Palace+1.JPG"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 320px; FLOAT: left; HEIGHT: 240px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5466076531508327026" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgU4dkNup3ScQu3FEMF342YRtT3PqwxJcQxJCHws2By3Awu_ZAFecdIWG5PLGF7Upc_HEfw2jYF4WGNXs5H8t1S1BKj1IK84rY3tEL6Zm0NFwWPmso2vWVfTTbwpxzUsTE96ijVvy5qtgQ/s320/Jan.+1,+2010+dawn+Mayan+Palace+1.JPG" /></a> In honor of Earth day April 22, 2010, <em>Twin Cities Naturally</em> magazine asked me to write about green funerals. To give you a flavor, here's a clip from "Honor the Earth in Life and Death" with thanks to my wife for the best line in the piece. Spot it?<br /><br />"Our generation has led the way in so many areas--civil rights, home births, holistic health care, and the environmental movement. Now we can expand our thinking from living green to leaving green."<br /><br />To read the short article, click <a href="http://content.yudu.com/Library/A1nawx/201004TwinCitiesNatu/resources/index.htm?referrerUrl=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.yudu.com%2Fitem%2Fdetails%2F145126%2F2010-04-Twin-Cities-Naturally-April-">here</a>.<br /><br />NancyNancy Manahan and Becky Bohanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09599183856626258686noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4182320155610546312.post-8209588118779011212010-03-20T17:19:00.000-07:002012-09-21T08:53:48.228-07:00Cemeteries and Picnics<img alt="" border="0" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5450884871217925154" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjCCw2w3VBjP3wU4paU7g2RH7Yvg704-vltFBW6LzNSu2nwLp5sFeITR3weiB2XHvynfyMKe1jf1e55P9nXXCqnoplIqcg9PJ_YflqRJ-UarWHhnG1gJT1dvp9POcc5djXw8Aa-IxLAcF0/s320/Lakewood+Cemetery.jpg" style="float: left; height: 118px; margin: 0px 10px 10px 0px; width: 320px;" />“Kids, look, there’s the cemetery where we would stop when I was a girl."<br />
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"The trip to Rochester used to take so long that when the weather was nice, we would rest here and have a picnic.” </div>
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My mother said this every time my father drove us past the roadside cemetery on the two-hour drive to see our Rochester, Minnesota, relatives or visit the Mayo Clinic. </div>
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As little girl, I was horrified. Eating among the gravestones seemed like a creepy custom from another country and another century. </div>
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"Mom, how could you eat on top of all those <em>dead</em> <em>people</em>?!" </div>
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“Oh, it was lovely!” she would reply. “The cemetery was halfway between Madelia and Rochester, so sometimes Aunt Daisy and Uncle Louie would meet us here. We’d put a blanket on the grass, and after sandwiches and lemonade, Uncle Louie and Papa would smoke and take a nap. Later Mama and I would go back to Rochester for a few days' visit, and Papa would return home alone.” </div>
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My mother's fond recollections didn't mean much to me then, but as I got older, I found myself drawn to cemeteries. Not to picnic, as my mother did in the 1920s, but to walk and reflect. Cemeteries are havens for birds, flowers, big trees, and human history. They touch me deeply.</div>
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For fifteen years, I lived two blocks from a 50-acre historic cemetery in Napa, California. I often walked at Tulocay, marveling at the opulent Victorian mausoleums and grave markers, some over a century old. It was a soothing place to sort out life's challenges and see my problems from a larger perspective. </div>
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Now my wife and I make our home in Minnesota and in Mexico. Our Minneapolis home is ten minutes from the posh 250-acre historic Lakewood Cemetery, where we can stroll for hours. In our home town of Madelia, my sister’s farm abuts the cemetery where our relatives are buried. When Becky and I stay at my sister’s, we often walk amidst the markers, recognizing names from our childhood. </div>
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At the beginning of November, Mexicans celebrate Día de los Muertos, Day of the Dead. People wash and sweep their family’s grave-houses, decorate them with flowers, bring their loved ones’ favorite dishes, and eat the meal by the graves, as my mother's family did so long ago. </div>
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Rather than seeming quaint or creepy, this custom now feels admirable. Breaking bread among the graves is a way to normalize death, to nourish the connections between the living and our loved ones who have passed before us, and to enjoy the bounty of life in a beautiful and sacred setting. </div>
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Now that spring is almost upon us, Becky and I are thinking of having a little picnic with my mother. We'll bring her favorites: egg salad sandwiches, lemonade, and brownies. Skoal, Mom! </div>
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For a fascinating cultural history of cemeteries, from the first landscaped garden cemetery (Pere Lachaise in Paris), to the burial place of Louisa May Alcott, Ralph Waldo Emerson, Nathaniel Hawthorne and Henry David Thoreau (Sleepy Hollow in Massachusetts), to today’s natural conservation cemeteries in Britain and America, click <a href="http://www.naturallegacies.org/newsletters/NewsletterWinter-Spring2010DRAFT-web.pdf">here</a>. </div>
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Nancy Manahan and Becky Bohanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09599183856626258686noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4182320155610546312.post-4518319700683437152010-02-10T11:00:00.000-08:002010-02-15T13:29:10.496-08:005 Tips for Going Out Green<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhoqb9KkMESjIRzR7H-RBdbXiWpvV93SEUMmtv0XIhrrPElaFSMDLB5uUA_PS-gmpsvq7AFWwY_iji5vnPV-AtY3NhWPXUjjLDNi8Rx0KzAD92KkH3UpHtTlhyphenhyphenrxhxPW-4xR5FOLO2fPNc/s1600-h/Garden+at+Grand+Mayan.JPG"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 200px; FLOAT: right; HEIGHT: 150px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5436697223410795122" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhoqb9KkMESjIRzR7H-RBdbXiWpvV93SEUMmtv0XIhrrPElaFSMDLB5uUA_PS-gmpsvq7AFWwY_iji5vnPV-AtY3NhWPXUjjLDNi8Rx0KzAD92KkH3UpHtTlhyphenhyphenrxhxPW-4xR5FOLO2fPNc/s200/Garden+at+Grand+Mayan.JPG" /></a> You recycle. You replace conventional light bulbs with energy-saving bulbs. You turn down the heat and avoid using air conditioning. You buy local, organic produce. You walk or bike, and you may even own a fuel-efficient car.<br /><br />But have you considered the carbon footprint of your final act on earth? As in <em>your funeral</em>?<br /><br />Conventional funeral practices are not usually “green.” Embalming fluids, hardwood and metal caskets, concrete vaults, and the gasoline, pesticides, and herbicides required to maintain a traditional cemetery are not environmentally-friendly. In addition to being better for the environment, green funerals usually cost much less than “traditional” funerals.<br /><br />Green cemeteries have opened in the UK and Europe, with the US starting to follow suit. Click <a href="http://www.greenburials.org/FAQ.htm#Where_can_I_find_green_cemeteries_in_the_United_States">here</a> for a list. If you live far one of the few natural burial grounds in this country, you still can minimize the environmental impact of your final leave-taking if you follow these tips.<br /><br />1. AVOID EMBALMING. Let your body return to the earth naturally, without toxic chemicals.<br /><br />2. AVOID METAL OR HARDWOOD CASKETS. Cooperate, instead of interfering with, the natural process of decomposition. Choose a pine, bamboo, jute, or cardboard casket, or simply have a shroud.<br /><br />3. AVOID concrete gave liners (vaults). They’re not required by law. They are simply standard practice in conventional cemeteries.<br /><br />4. If there is no conservation cemetery nearby, ask your local cemeteries about a natural burial area. Many are designating space to meet the growing demand for green burials.<br /><br />5. If natural burial is not feasible, choose cremation. Although burning requires fossil fuels and may release mercury and other toxic chemicals into the environment, cremation is much greener than conventional embalming and burial practices.<br /><br />You can also investigate a new technology: Resomation. This is an alkaline hydrolysis process that takes about the same time as cremation but uses less energy, produces less CO2, and avoids putting mercury and other contaminants into the atmosphere. It returns the body to its organic components, leaving only a white ash and nutrient-rich water, which could fertilize a memorial tree. Resomation is currently offered in only a few places in North America, including the Mayo Medical School's body-donor program in Minnesota.<br /><br /><img style="MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 200px; FLOAT: left; HEIGHT: 150px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5436696454643461218" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjFqbKRLQbaFwCUXbj08Qp_j_EwlsJpCXLJtXShBKJembFt2LB54SqNsgMiY6VsPJWkGiPVaLX0q9oK4nyp9TSMkYlDCiU1OcPUIAsk-THNPY92YrTbr_y95bgyINR9z_xnWTO2PFBmk5E/s200/Jan.+1,+2010+dawn+Mayan+Palace+2.JPG" />No matter which way you want to go, those who will make decisions for you should know your final wishes. Put your instructions in writing. Discuss them with your family and friends. A funeral directive can be part of your Health Care Directive, which we all should have. There are free downloadable forms on line. One that we like, “Five Wishes,” is comprehensive and walks step by step through excellent questions. It’s available <a href="http://www.agingwithdignity.org/five-wishes.php">here</a>.<br /><br />So the next time you take out the newspapers and cans, imagine how you want to conduct your final act of recycling. Act now so that, when the time comes, you can Go Out Green.<br /><br />For more information about green burial, see the New York Times article “<a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2009/07/21/us/21funeral.html?_r=1&hpw">Home Burials Offer an Intimate Alternative</a>,” read <a href="http://www.gravematters.us/">Grave Matters </a>by Mark Harris, or read <a href="http://www.bobbutz.com/pages.php?tabid=146&pageid=680&title=Coming+Soon%3A+Going+Out+Green">Going Out Green </a>by Bob Butz.Nancy Manahan and Becky Bohanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09599183856626258686noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4182320155610546312.post-42741508500185587882009-11-07T18:15:00.000-08:002009-11-07T18:20:59.225-08:00Your Last Carbon FootprintYou recycle, you use canvas bags at the grocery store, you conserve water, you don’t put chemicals on your yard, and you drive a hybrid vehicle. Would you like to reduce the carbon footprint of your life’s final ritual as well? Tips on how to do exactly that are in a 4-minute CBS <a href="http://cbs3.com/video/?id=90401@kyw.dayport.com">feature story</a> on home funerals and green burials in the Philadelphia area. CBS interviewed members of <a href="http://www.naturalundertaking.org/links.html">Natural Undertaking</a>, a Pennsylvania resource center for home funeral care. The 20-second discussion among the news anchors at the end of the story is priceless.Nancy Manahan and Becky Bohanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09599183856626258686noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4182320155610546312.post-42138138860793566232009-10-31T06:57:00.000-07:002009-10-31T07:15:15.975-07:00The Next Step<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhw-vi4VQ8LtKwEfoSjifAxXdex-L59nqFrEIkayaSOzHW0Rvtp4v1TwcqUMn2koAOzxPmvFcs5Pux1IssbM3DUvsEHhVh9NTR3Tzfi01WZ_NoXAGeBEpAONVXX2xgb84oqIYedNg7DAng/s1600-h/MIPA+gold+sticker.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5398766848448378722" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 178px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 180px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhw-vi4VQ8LtKwEfoSjifAxXdex-L59nqFrEIkayaSOzHW0Rvtp4v1TwcqUMn2koAOzxPmvFcs5Pux1IssbM3DUvsEHhVh9NTR3Tzfi01WZ_NoXAGeBEpAONVXX2xgb84oqIYedNg7DAng/s320/MIPA+gold+sticker.jpg" border="0" /></a> Last year at the Midwest Independent Publishers Association Book Awards ceremony, <em>Living Consciously, Dying Gracefully</em> won first place in the Health category. After accepting our award in front of 300 publishers, booksellers, and authors and getting gold stickers for our books, Nancy and I were given the envelope of scoring sheets and comments from the judges. Our mouths dropped open when we read, "This book deserves a mainstream publisher and a national audience."<br /><div><br />We hadn't considered going mainstream, but the judge's comment was a catalyst. We didn't do anything for a while, but then our friend Mary Treacy O'Keefe, author of <em>Thin Places</em> (also published by Beaver's Pond Press), started nudging us: Find an agent! You need to get to a big publisher! Find an agent! Call Larry Dossey and ask him who his agent is!<br /><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhC_OoeI3HDx5rK39EAM0Q3ygkiWD1Lio9yBOXcT3ex6J4GsEMQ4GpDUYcCzQM177RsVCgvrrnshCOCr9CP2O5OfOlY99nvWdqpNV6GDimR7LO4e5zE6PtNZvSDhXLMLIW841Mviv-hLH4/s1600-h/barbara+deal.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5398763604123449058" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 142px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 200px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhC_OoeI3HDx5rK39EAM0Q3ygkiWD1Lio9yBOXcT3ex6J4GsEMQ4GpDUYcCzQM177RsVCgvrrnshCOCr9CP2O5OfOlY99nvWdqpNV6GDimR7LO4e5zE6PtNZvSDhXLMLIW841Mviv-hLH4/s200/barbara+deal.jpg" border="0" /></a>Eventually we contacted Larry Dossey, M.D., who had already written a beautiful blurb for our back cover, and he recommended a literary agent in northern California --Barbara Deal, owner of Literary Associates. Although she wasn't taking on any new projects, once she read <em>Living Consciously, Dying Gracefully</em>, she agreed to take us on.</div><br /><div>We've been waiting out the economic crisis, but now that publishers are again buying manuscripts, Barbara thinks the time is right. So we wrote a book proposal for her to present to publishing houses. By the time we finished this 30-page description of our book, the market, the competition, and our passion for sharing Diane's story, even WE were impressed! </div><div><br />Last week, ten packets went out to ten publishers. If one of them likes the book, there could be a revised, expanded edition published by this time next year. We're keeping our fingers crossed. We hope that Diane's inspiring story can take the next step in reaching a much wider audience!</div>Nancy Manahan and Becky Bohanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09599183856626258686noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4182320155610546312.post-8568626084674373052009-10-26T06:40:00.000-07:002009-10-26T06:46:43.802-07:00Lessons from a Hospital Chaplain<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiuLqAdQjeMpxBMIY0lACu_pU62N8QWSnt8UfOWgpYuK6wLKZ6b6myg_sjdemYnnppw0neR5tDulDrAxTIEizpurFfcxSzHthJjEy_IOVDunoukAmPMZMIcNweF3ITj6UhCZHVS_omCUSQ/s1600-h/Flandreau04-1.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5396904195496601954" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 264px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 214px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiuLqAdQjeMpxBMIY0lACu_pU62N8QWSnt8UfOWgpYuK6wLKZ6b6myg_sjdemYnnppw0neR5tDulDrAxTIEizpurFfcxSzHthJjEy_IOVDunoukAmPMZMIcNweF3ITj6UhCZHVS_omCUSQ/s320/Flandreau04-1.JPG" border="0" /></a>The current issue of <a href="http://www.spirituality-health.com/spirit/">Spirituality & Health: The Soul/Body Connection</a> features an article entitled “What is a Good Death: A Hospital Chaplain Reflects on the Lessons from Her Patients.” One thing that attracted Karen Rushen to the spiritual care of the sick and dying was wanting “to know why some people appeared to have a ‘better death’ than others, passing from this life with less fear, pain, and resistance than other people.” She also wanted to look at her own “worst nightmares about sickness, pain, and end of life . . . .”<br /><br />Rushen shares several experiences from her years with dying patients, from newborns to the elderly. My favorite story is of an elderly woman dying of cancer. Her husband sat by her hospital bed, “sobbing pitifully for days on end. Finally he fell asleep from exhaustion, and that’s when his wife passed away. Yet when he woke up, he was calm upon finding out that his wife had died, telling the staff that he had just had a very powerful dream in which his wife assured him that she loved him, and that she was in a wonderful place, waiting for him to join her someday.”<br /><br />Rushen ends her reflections by observing that her job has taught her that “each day is precious, that health is not to be taken for granted, and that the most horrendous suffering can contain gifts and life lessons.” She also found that by facing her own fears squarely and by daring to ask herself and others some of “life’s most daunting questions,” she “experienced a profound clarity” around her own life’s purpose.<br /><br />We don’t have to become a hospital chaplain or a hospice volunteer to learn these lessons. We can learn from any of the many wonderful books available on what to expect and how best to prepare for our own death or that of a loved one, books such as Susan Dolan’s <a href="http://www.amazon.com/End-Life-Advisor-Considerations-Dignified/dp/1427798397/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1256058580&sr=8-1">End of Life Advisor</a>, the recently published <a href="http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss?url=search-alias%3Dstripbooks&field-keywords=Jane+Brody%92s+Guide+to+the+Great+Beyond">Jane Brody’s Guide to the Great Beyond</a>, David Kessler’s <a href="http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss?url=search-alias%3Dstripbooks&field-keywords=The+Needs+of+the+Dying">The Needs of the Dying</a>, and Elisabeth Kubler Ross’ classic <a href="http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss?url=search-alias%3Dstripbooks&field-keywords=On+Death+and+Dying">On Death and Dying</a>. This 1969 publication started the whole cultural shift toward dealing with death more openly. My copy (cost: $1.95) may have started me on a path that forty years later, led to becoming a home funeral activist.<br /><br />We can also study contemporary spiritual teachers such as <a href="http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_3_13?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=eckhart+tolle+the+power+of+now&sprefix=Eckhart+Tolle">Eckhart Tolle</a>, <a href="http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_1_11?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=byron+katie+loving+what+is&sprefix=Byron+Katie">Byron Katie</a>, <a href="http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_1_14?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=stephen+levine+healing+into+life+and+death&sprefix=Stephen+Levine">Stephen Levine</a>, and the <a href="http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=Dali+Lama">Dali Lama</a>, or go back to one of my all time favorite books, the 2nd century Roman classic, <a href="http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=Marcus+Aurelius%92+Meditations">Marcus Aurelius’ Meditations</a>.<br /><br />We can watch movies that neither avoid nor romanticize death, films such as . . . oh, that’s a topic for another day. Meanwhile, carpe diem!<br /><br />NancyNancy Manahan and Becky Bohanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09599183856626258686noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4182320155610546312.post-91178671922267947492009-10-20T18:02:00.000-07:002009-10-24T15:26:35.089-07:00Nancy in a PulpitOne of the last places I expected to find myself was behind a raised pulpit, looking out over a congregation. I had been sitting in the sanctuary during the prayers and hymns. Now I stood for my sermon. Yes, my <em>sermon</em>.<br /><br />I left the Catholic church when I was 21 and haven’t attended any denomination’s services except for an occasional wedding or funeral. I have something like an allergic reaponsevto church services. Had I actually agreed to speak at Birmingham Unitarian Church in Michigan?<br /><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgNO6XfEI8DmwgUUErSBnr3-ObLOUKNteaArNnqDIak9AAzB6YO9BUkDOZjLAJcm3jeW-ifmCCYJlTU6JlGWXIuRJv7g32xELO04r7NVgp1api-pbrIcq3HFj6oOZfwss-p3-sEyiMCTWY/s1600-h/nanbec+with+Susie+Symons+Aug+2009.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 209px; FLOAT: left; HEIGHT: 174px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5394852825015894290" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgNO6XfEI8DmwgUUErSBnr3-ObLOUKNteaArNnqDIak9AAzB6YO9BUkDOZjLAJcm3jeW-ifmCCYJlTU6JlGWXIuRJv7g32xELO04r7NVgp1api-pbrIcq3HFj6oOZfwss-p3-sEyiMCTWY/s200/nanbec+with+Susie+Symons+Aug+2009.jpg" /></a>Thankfully, sitting behind me, waiting to take her turn in the pulpit, was our friend and church member Susie Symons. Susie, featured in <em>Living Consciously, Dying Gracefully</em>, had made the arrangements, and would deliver her half of the sermon next.<br /><br />The week before, at <a href="http://www.hospicevs.org/">Hospice Volunteer Services </a>of Vermont. I felt comfortable, articulate, even inspired. Afterwards, as we gathered up the few books we didn’t sell, I told Becky, “This was so enjoyable we really ought to give more presentations.”<br /><br />But in front of the Unitarians my inspiration vanished. I felt shaken in a way I don’t normally before an audience. I opened my mouth and out came a croak. I cleared my throat, coughed, and finally managed a hoarse sentence. I plunged forward, gaining confidence. But three minutes into my remarks, I remembered that this was NOT the moment for my sermon. I was supposed to have read a poem first. Only after Susie had read a second poem, was my sermon to begin.<br /><br />At my chagrined glance, Susie waved for me to continue. When I finished, she stepped to the pulpit and shared both her poem and the story of Diane’s impact on her. Susie, who had confided how nerve-wracking public speaking was for her, gave the most eloquent, beautiful sermon.<br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiHYYC_YkXoLPgnia6ELaTe7Dw-Z-V4GI6veTjRBwCsjCcMY92qfkPCXBpKhZyx5_NwH2ZEKO5TzJAy5bcoVB2VBt6cSlfkKsc1CzTEnZsPnWGTnjvpGkyDzNQyF-ifiAwfoWuGdV3Bdbw/s1600-h/John+Glick+%26+Susie+Symons.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 204px; FLOAT: right; HEIGHT: 181px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5396293813689283538" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiHYYC_YkXoLPgnia6ELaTe7Dw-Z-V4GI6veTjRBwCsjCcMY92qfkPCXBpKhZyx5_NwH2ZEKO5TzJAy5bcoVB2VBt6cSlfkKsc1CzTEnZsPnWGTnjvpGkyDzNQyF-ifiAwfoWuGdV3Bdbw/s320/John+Glick+%26+Susie+Symons.jpg" /></a><br />In the social hall after the service, church members were warm, gracious, and generous in the personal experiences they shared with Becky and me and in the number of our books they bought. Then Susie and her husband <a href="http://www.johnglick.com/">John Glick </a>(a world-famous potter who made ceramic containers for Diane's ashes) took us home for a fabulous Italian lunch, never once mentioning my rattled performance. John took the above photo of Becky, Susie, and me in their back yard. True friends, pictured here.<br /><br />NancyNancy Manahan and Becky Bohanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09599183856626258686noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4182320155610546312.post-30482761715107997122009-09-23T09:27:00.000-07:002009-09-23T09:54:24.645-07:00Our Joy of Giving<div><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiiYIO327WCqYtsJusTRgbEVz505y0IKthweW9isJFlXKs9z81OIE_-a9zzoVqNMnXyjaQ2tPe2gyzm4iG8qN1frP5BlE8osRQ_LW9emaw4kXErp9JUWoU8xABn_NDWoN_nu-AlPHFjyB4/s1600-h/6diane+and+becky+cropped.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 200px; FLOAT: left; HEIGHT: 154px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5384703276155956610" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiiYIO327WCqYtsJusTRgbEVz505y0IKthweW9isJFlXKs9z81OIE_-a9zzoVqNMnXyjaQ2tPe2gyzm4iG8qN1frP5BlE8osRQ_LW9emaw4kXErp9JUWoU8xABn_NDWoN_nu-AlPHFjyB4/s200/6diane+and+becky+cropped.jpg" /></a> Yesterday, Becky and I gave 200 copies of <em>Living Consciously, Dying Gracefully: A Journey with Cancer and Beyond</em> to the Breast Cancer Awareness Association (BCAA) of Minnesota, enough so that each participant in the 8th annual Living with Breast Cancer conference can have a copy. (To register for this free October 3, 2009, conference at the Minneapolis Convention Center, click <a href="http://www.bcaamn.org/ConferenceWelcome.html">here</a>.) Last year, we also donated copies to BCAA, and responses from recipients indicate that Bill and Diane Manahan’s story benefited them deeply.<br /><br />Last month, I did something I’ve never done before. Since we were attending the week-long Manahan family reunion in Stowe, Vermont, Becky and I had offered to speak at <a href="http://www.hospicevs.org/">Hospice </a><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgii_iOv9y8hkOlysdR-Dnx2k_Kbei5R4PjWL9Q31fUaux-u5V89Jj9JvIUNLLt5WoPgSRRto-7vXWtW8vk_C7rsiS3b_f8rDrZhrOhbW9CA8aVeZ1SQIiRWfYTqcKvHLx87ZaBiCtbgzs/s1600-h/Diane+%26+Kate+Manahan.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 186px; FLOAT: left; HEIGHT: 200px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5384704719670790578" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgii_iOv9y8hkOlysdR-Dnx2k_Kbei5R4PjWL9Q31fUaux-u5V89Jj9JvIUNLLt5WoPgSRRto-7vXWtW8vk_C7rsiS3b_f8rDrZhrOhbW9CA8aVeZ1SQIiRWfYTqcKvHLx87ZaBiCtbgzs/s200/Diane+%26+Kate+Manahan.jpg" /></a><a href="http://www.hospicevs.org/">Volunteer Services</a> in nearby Middlebury. Bill and Diane’s daughter-in-law Kate Manahan (shown here with Diane), who recently completed hospice volunteer training in Maine, joined us. The hospice Executive Director anticipated 10-15 people would attend, but 30 volunteers and nurses showed up, some of them from hospices an hour away. These women and men were riveted by Diane’s story, crying and laughing right along with the three of us. At the end of our presentation, I said that anyone who bought a book could take a free copy for a hospice, hospital, library, or family of their choice. More books went out the door that afternoon than at any other presentation we’ve given, almost 50 copies.<br /><br />For the second printing of <em>Living Consciously, Dying Gracefully</em> last year, we ordered 1000 extra copies so that we and Bill would have plenty to give away. We didn’t anticipate how rewarding those gifts would be nor how many cancer conferences, hospices, home-death groups, authors of books about death and dying, public libraries, and random acquaintances we’d connect with. We’ve donated more books than we ever imagined. Diane Manahan, a passionate community activist and philanthropist, would be delighted to see her story reaching so many people, supporting their ability to live more consciously and, when the time come, to die more gracefully. </div><div><br />A few months ago, Becky and I offered a complimentary copy to anyone whose personal end-of-life story is posted on <a href="http://www.nanbec.com/">http://www.nanbec.com/</a>. So far, we have received only one story. We thought that the July 2009 New York Times front-page <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2009/07/21/us/21funeral.html?_r=1&hpw">article</a> on home funerals, which mentioned the book (and in the online edition, linked to our website), would spur submissions. Although Amazon.com ranking shot up —<em>Living Consciously, Dying Gracefully</em> became an overnight best-seller in the categories of holistic health, women’s issues, and death and grief—we didn’t receive a single story. The offer is still open. If you have a friend or family good-death story or know someone who does, please contact us: <a href="mailto:nanbec@nanbec.com">nanbec@nanbec.com</a>.<br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj6pYKCOeZasfUSCz_MIGT_zV9Q8wssH402L5K0hgnnZFdir2oHJljPL1-wJgIyRP2tf8j7x7E9LEqsLP13q0VcSwtl8tlUmkOJyWtE8wD2bb2o8bkgSuuiMe5ZfI0rDA8nZQaFwE-3Q-o/s1600-h/15djm40-01.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 133px; FLOAT: right; HEIGHT: 200px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5384705280408236050" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj6pYKCOeZasfUSCz_MIGT_zV9Q8wssH402L5K0hgnnZFdir2oHJljPL1-wJgIyRP2tf8j7x7E9LEqsLP13q0VcSwtl8tlUmkOJyWtE8wD2bb2o8bkgSuuiMe5ZfI0rDA8nZQaFwE-3Q-o/s200/15djm40-01.jpg" /></a><br />Similarly, if you know a cancer center, hospice, grief group, or public library that could use a copy of <em>Living Consciously, Dying Gracefully: A Journey with Cancer and Beyond</em>, let us know the address, and we will donate a book in your name. Becky and I appreciate your support for our ongoing joy in sharing our sister-in law Diane Manahan's extraordinary and inspiring story!</div><div></div><div>Nancy</div></div>Nancy Manahan and Becky Bohanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09599183856626258686noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4182320155610546312.post-46059266949983225412009-07-06T13:33:00.000-07:002009-07-06T13:56:19.239-07:00“Departures,” A Sublime Film<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjTELKfbL9GylbKCcxD23HBSPyfx7LWK3ymSHqBw2qQYtAmbxgJ8RRZYbop968qPK30Zr6pXlCIXDtoV269oiA50kHySyXXm5dA09JDRI3bex7q-XCQIiijkWPLvvi9OWIr1pTYyCIj4r0/s1600-h/Departures+film.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 144px; FLOAT: left; HEIGHT: 216px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5355450764491281794" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjTELKfbL9GylbKCcxD23HBSPyfx7LWK3ymSHqBw2qQYtAmbxgJ8RRZYbop968qPK30Zr6pXlCIXDtoV269oiA50kHySyXXm5dA09JDRI3bex7q-XCQIiijkWPLvvi9OWIr1pTYyCIj4r0/s320/Departures+film.jpg" /></a> “Departures,” the winner of the 2009 Academy Award for Best Foreign Language Film, is an inspiring glimpse into Japan’s cultural heritage of caring for a body after death.<br /><br />When a young Tokyo cellist loses his orchestra job, he and his wife move back to his hometown. He answers a classified ad entitled “Departures,” thinking it’s a travel agency only to discover that the job involves washing and casketing bodies. Daigo overcomes his initial revulsion and comes to love the reverential ceremonies, which are transformational for the families involved . . . and eventually for him and his wife.<br /><br />“Departures” beautifully depicts an approach to death that could teach our culture much. It shows an option between conventional Western funeral practices and caring for our own at home. Although Daigo and his teacher wash and dress the body, they work quietly in the deceased person’s home with the family surrounding their loved one during the entire ritual. There is no embalming. Shocking, funny, and profoundly moving things happen during this process.<br /><br />Anyone interested in threshold work, spiritual openings, personal transformations, or exquisite filmmaking will enjoy “Departures.” To see a trailer of the film, click <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TaFRCLAYEF0">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TaFRCLAYEF0</a>.Nancy Manahan and Becky Bohanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09599183856626258686noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4182320155610546312.post-6114183628154778712009-05-29T12:37:00.000-07:002009-06-25T11:50:49.584-07:00Alison's Gift<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEib70BuwVOzVvtS3i_nK1HHT2F3ItLNKhCDSXk4RJbuodJg5r_2ndY9p9NHfqc9n5-keU_Znj5D9B8rRfkmH4xO_ogn0MvpCWBkeR3FVWfHbq0SWgPApJs648TjpFP8eJonXfa0wFSRTng/s1600-h/Alison's+Gift+cover.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5341335182906847698" style="FLOAT: right; MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 138px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 199px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEib70BuwVOzVvtS3i_nK1HHT2F3ItLNKhCDSXk4RJbuodJg5r_2ndY9p9NHfqc9n5-keU_Znj5D9B8rRfkmH4xO_ogn0MvpCWBkeR3FVWfHbq0SWgPApJs648TjpFP8eJonXfa0wFSRTng/s200/Alison's+Gift+cover.jpg" border="0" /></a> When my sister-in-law had terminal-stage breast cancer, she and my brother read a book that changed their lives.<br /><div><div><div><div><br /><a href="http://www.crossings.net/story.html"><em>Alison’s Gift</em></a> is the true story of a seven-year old killed by an air bag in a slow-speed collision. Her mother, Beth Knox, knew that when Alison was disconnected from life-support, she did not want a mortician to take charge. She wanted to bring Alison home, continue caring for her, share her grief, and give Alison’s brothers, grandparents, and friends time to say goodbye.<br /><br />The hospital said it could not release Alison to her mother’s care. They eventually allowed an undertaker to transport the body home. As Beth learned later, the hospital was wrong; she had the legal right to take Alison home in the van in which she had driven her daughter to school each day. </div><div><br />For the next three days, Alison lay on her own bed. Friends and family members talked and sang to her, prayed and meditated, or just sat quietly, saying goodbye. Several of Alison’s Waldorf School classmates came, and even though some parents were apprehensive about letting them see a body, the children seemed quite comfortable. Spending time with their friend, far from being frightening or creepy, allowed them so experience death as a real and normal part of life. </div><div><br />As a result of this experience, Beth founded <a href="http://www.crossings.net/">Crossings: Caring for Our Own at Death</a>, a national non-profit educational organization. In workshops around the country, she teaches people how to care for a body at home, choose a final resting place, and understand the applicable laws in each state. (For a 3-minute Frontline You Tube story on home funerals featuring Beth Knox, click <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mTRs5EEssLk">here</a>.) </div><div><br />Just as the home birth movement has given families more control over birth, the home death movement, which Beth helped found, encourages families to take more control over the other big transition, returning death care to its rightful place as a last sacred family act of love. </div><div><br />My brother and sister-in-law, Bill and Diane Manahan, liked this idea. They ordered a home funeral kit from Crossings. In addition to instructions for after-death care, the kit contained essential oil of lavender for washing the body, a length of white silk cloth to drape over it, and candles. (Although this kit is no longer sold, a <em>Handbook for Home Funeral Care</em> is available for purchase or as a free pdf download at <a href="http://www.crossings.com/">http://www.crossings.com/</a>.)</div><div><br />My spouse Becky Bohan and I were with Diane when she died. I helped bathe and dress her body, hold a vigil, accompany her body to the crematorium, and bring her ashes back home for her life celebration three days later. Becky had a mystical experience at the moment of Diane's death and a joyful visit from Diane several hours later. These profound experiences led us to write <a href="http://www.nanbec.com/"><em>Living Consciously, Dying Gracefully: A Journey with Cancer and Beyond</em></a>, which has won six regional and national book <a href="http://nanbec.com/Awards.html">awards</a> and affected readers in ways similar to the impact <em>Alison’s </em><em>Gift</em> had on our family. </div><div> </div><div> </div><div></div><div></div><div></div><div></div><div></div><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjxPIBAT600qc9NkoNZAOkqRz_1lx-BNsqMwhPgkcn90D5JU7LZpTxMOmSta0qedWdiRsG68ZJHpArfddP8PbiiZWY2md-Fq9J-qw3OAGFfWqpb3yNXwInAblsFn29tJ2wdPSfouQ66NrQ/s1600-h/Beth+Knox+in+Amsterdam.jpg"></a></div><div></div><div><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjxPIBAT600qc9NkoNZAOkqRz_1lx-BNsqMwhPgkcn90D5JU7LZpTxMOmSta0qedWdiRsG68ZJHpArfddP8PbiiZWY2md-Fq9J-qw3OAGFfWqpb3yNXwInAblsFn29tJ2wdPSfouQ66NrQ/s1600-h/Beth+Knox+in+Amsterdam.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5351336604599622226" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 241px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 259px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjxPIBAT600qc9NkoNZAOkqRz_1lx-BNsqMwhPgkcn90D5JU7LZpTxMOmSta0qedWdiRsG68ZJHpArfddP8PbiiZWY2md-Fq9J-qw3OAGFfWqpb3yNXwInAblsFn29tJ2wdPSfouQ66NrQ/s320/Beth+Knox+in+Amsterdam.jpg" border="0" /></a></div>Last month, when Becky and I were in Maryland, we spent an afternoon with Alison's mother. We liked Beth Knox immensely. She is an ideal home funeral educator -- warm, practical, visionary, and passionate about the environment. She told us about the remarkable deaths last year of her mother and her husband’s father, who died peacefully at home, and who requested and received a home funeral. </div><div><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjxPIBAT600qc9NkoNZAOkqRz_1lx-BNsqMwhPgkcn90D5JU7LZpTxMOmSta0qedWdiRsG68ZJHpArfddP8PbiiZWY2md-Fq9J-qw3OAGFfWqpb3yNXwInAblsFn29tJ2wdPSfouQ66NrQ/s1600-h/Beth+Knox+in+Amsterdam.jpg"></a></div>Following Beth’s lead, our local <a href="http://mnthresholdnetwork.wordpress.com/">Minnesota Threshold Network</a> offered a free public information session on home deaths and green, eco-friendly burials in Minneapolis this month. Resources, including <em>Alison’s Gift</em>, were available. </div><div><br /></div><div>If readers of this blog know of someone who is interested in caring for their own at death, please extend an invitation to read this inspiring book, join the <a href="http://www.crossings.com/">Crossings</a> listserv, and learn from the experiences of Alison and her extraordinary mother. </div><div><br />Nancy<br /><br /></div><br /><br /><br /><div></div></div></div></div>Nancy Manahan and Becky Bohanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09599183856626258686noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4182320155610546312.post-61437008847079844482009-03-24T10:58:00.000-07:002009-03-24T11:03:12.980-07:00Book Buzz!What's the best thing that can happen to a book?<br /><br />Buzz!<br /><br />Many a small title has burst onto the best seller list because of a groundswell of interest. How does that happen? An outstanding book? Inspiration? Perspiration? Luck?<br /><br />Recently 15 authors from <a href="http://www.beaverspondpress.com/">Beaver's Pond Press</a> met at the Edina Public Library to share ideas for generating groundswells of interest in our books.<br />Several suggestions emerged:<br /><br /><ul><li>Always carry copies of your book with you. Hold one in your hand whenever possible, for example, as you wait to board an airplane. Ask the flight attendant to show it and announce that the author is on board with signed copies. Sales can happen anywhere. And once you're in the air, you don't have to charge sale's tax!</li><li>Contribute to blogs.</li><li>Check out on-line resources for Building the Buzz, e.g. <a href="http://www.writing-world.com/promotion/buzz.shtml">Writing-World.com</a>. </li><li>Contact local newspapers and cable TV to pitch a story idea. They want more than just "local author publishes book." They are looking for an interesting or informative angle to snag readers. </li><li>Send review copies to the media. Alternatively, you can send sell sheets or postcards asking if they would like a review copy so you don't waste freebies on people who aren't interested.</li><li>Set up an appealing website and maximize traffic to your site. This is a whole topic in and of itself... especially important for those who are not tech-savvy.</li><li>Set up readings and presentations at bookstores and libraries. A marketing rep can help you, or you can do it on your own by calling and visiting bookstores that might be interested in your book. Try to get media attention before the event.</li><li>Think outside the bookstore! Give presentations to organizations connected to your topic. The people who attend are more likely to buy your book.</li><li>Write articles for magazines (paper or on-line) and get magazines to excerpt parts of your book.</li><li>Be generous in giving away copies to people who could be good promoters of your book.</li></ul><p>Meeting with other authors is a great way to get ideas and support. Once a book is in print, don't put up your feet and wait for readers to discover your title. The ongoing creative work of creating buzz has just begun!!!</p>Nancy Manahan and Becky Bohanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09599183856626258686noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4182320155610546312.post-63933479494632428092009-03-09T08:08:00.001-07:002009-03-09T08:29:23.722-07:00On the Move!A literary agent has agreed to represent Living Consciously, Dying Gracefully to mainstream publishers. We are honored and thrilled by her belief that Diane's story deserves a larger publisher and a national audience. She advises waiting a few months until the economy starts to move in a positive direction before making any moves. Like most businesses, publishers are hunkering down right now.<br /><br />Meanwhile, we continue to promote the book. We recently shipped a boxful (52 count) to Michigan psychotherapist Susie Symons, whose story about after-death communication with Diane appears in Chapter 19 of <em>Living Consciously, Dying Gracefully</em>. She will give the book to friends and patients as appropriate. We are grateful for Susie's continuing support.<br /><br />Nancy has been on the phone and emailing up a storm trying to set up presentations in the Washington, D.C. area for our visit in April and early May. Thanks for Bill, we have arranged with the American Holistic Medical Association to deliver books to their spring conference at the Association for Research and Enlightenment (A.R.E.) center in Virginia Beach, home of the Edgar Cayce Institute. We are excited to get Diane's story into the hands of integrative physicians and people interested in metaphysical studies. The huge A.R.E. Bookstore has agreed to carry <em>Living Consciously, Dying Gracefully</em>.<br /><br />Our application for a booth was accepted by the Bloomington Art Center's annual <a href="http://www.bloomingtonartcenter.com/Pages/Writer">Writers' Festival and Book Fair</a> on March 21 from 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. The festival will have lots of authors, books, and workshops. It's a chance for the public to meet and talk to authors and to get signed copies at a good price. We look forward to being there and doing a ten-minute reading. You are all invited!Nancy Manahan and Becky Bohanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09599183856626258686noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4182320155610546312.post-110272395883572172009-03-06T07:02:00.000-08:002009-03-06T07:18:14.212-08:00Sharpening Our Focus<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgsJ9mGs-1sllzS26Glz2zx5jmom3ZfjOtJy28yCAuYMIo_9XlO1BjMoowXnzccsM7Ach2nBN-C9jkKyxLE_C4rZA3ImLiIAYpIljulOPsY48cwyl9aTKkihbr6cKXDeG-wZn-NY1XdDOk/s1600-h/Author+photo+BW.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5310090821205840002" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 274px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 189px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgsJ9mGs-1sllzS26Glz2zx5jmom3ZfjOtJy28yCAuYMIo_9XlO1BjMoowXnzccsM7Ach2nBN-C9jkKyxLE_C4rZA3ImLiIAYpIljulOPsY48cwyl9aTKkihbr6cKXDeG-wZn-NY1XdDOk/s320/Author+photo+BW.jpg" border="0" /></a> When we set up this blog over two years ago, we envisioned it as a place to share what's happening with our book, <em>Living Consciously, Dying Gracefully: A Journey with Cancer and Beyond</em>, as well as issues and ideas dealing with end of life and green burials. <div><br />Over time, the blog has morphed into more of a personal journal with occasional references to our book and end-of-life issues. While straying off the purpose has its merits, we feel it is time to refocus. </div><div><br />Therefore we have decided to use a second blog--nanbec.blogspot.com--to share our travel stories, musings, and personal adventures. </div><div></div><div>We'll keep this blog for more book-related topics, including reports of what's happening with the Minnesota Threshold Network, a group of people interested in family-directed, natural, end-of-life transitions. We'll delete the more personal entries from this blog, but they will be available on the nanbec blog. </div><div><br />For those of you who receive this blog automatically via email, we will add you to our nanbec blog email list. We'll keep you signed up for this blog, too, but let us know if you prefer to receive just one or the other. We are sensitive to bulking up your email box and will be happy to delete you from the email list if you so desire. </div><div><br />So, without further ado, we invite you to read the first new entry in the blog, <a href="mailto:nanbec@blogspot.com">nanbec@blogspot.com</a>!</div>Nancy Manahan and Becky Bohanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09599183856626258686noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4182320155610546312.post-89112293175820441682009-01-06T07:06:00.000-08:002009-01-06T08:25:10.938-08:00Book News<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhoq7HyvSb3cVeCfoHR7H9odLWdBCfS0Rwe56VwDPKy6borJLLMggOMDJOQrUB60IyxellWNzdxQGJ-Kd5BiKr5O7iMakULRb9TO1W_NHzXPM_ddl2s01I5PzhH3c7tU07UDvqcYfr40ak/s1600-h/Nanbec+at+Buon+Giorno+Dec.+2008+-+2.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5288214146152378706" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 270px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 320px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhoq7HyvSb3cVeCfoHR7H9odLWdBCfS0Rwe56VwDPKy6borJLLMggOMDJOQrUB60IyxellWNzdxQGJ-Kd5BiKr5O7iMakULRb9TO1W_NHzXPM_ddl2s01I5PzhH3c7tU07UDvqcYfr40ak/s320/Nanbec+at+Buon+Giorno+Dec.+2008+-+2.jpg" border="0" /></a> A year ago when we reprinted <em>Living Consciously, Dying Gracefully: A Journey with Cancer</em>, we decided to print an extra thousand copies to give away to hospices, cancer centers, and other groups that seemed appropriate. (Thanks, Carolyn Miller, our friend who put the idea into our heads!!) We have been rather slow to get books out, but late this fall we have really stepped up our activities.<br /><div><br />In November we gave 350 books to participants of the Positive Aging conference at the University of Minnesota and sponsored by the Center for Spirituality and Healing. The next day we delivered 200 books to the U of M Women’s Health Center and the U of M Breast Center. </div><br /><div>Three days before we left for Mexico, we realized that instead of sending just flyers to the Evidence-Based Complementary Cancer Care Conference in Florida to be held in January, we could send the actual books! Rather than pack our bags for Mexico, we stuffed and attached labels to 260 books, packed them up, and hauled them to the Post Office. </div><br /><div>It feels very satisfying to be able to put Diane's story into the hands of people who might not otherwise see the book. </div><br /><div>We are not, however, giving up on sales! </div><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiTqirhSNqgAKkvMC68tMo9jph5Rl91ltjlLgTC6q3asFcbujTXCupUBmv6Efa4-a0Un-Uy8JXovR_XuTCS-etqhiQplUTBfQYMf5g5_WJIwYVMdBd4Y4Yds-hdvIc8olLwyWQZOxbGKDY/s1600-h/Color+of+Authors+Buon+Giorno+Dec.+2008+-+2.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5288215109793531666" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 138px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiTqirhSNqgAKkvMC68tMo9jph5Rl91ltjlLgTC6q3asFcbujTXCupUBmv6Efa4-a0Un-Uy8JXovR_XuTCS-etqhiQplUTBfQYMf5g5_WJIwYVMdBd4Y4Yds-hdvIc8olLwyWQZOxbGKDY/s320/Color+of+Authors+Buon+Giorno+Dec.+2008+-+2.jpg" border="0" /></a>We have joined five other writers from Beaver’s Pond Press who sell books at various venues. Dubbed “The Color of Authors,” we’re an eclectic bunch, spanning the range of award-winning mysteries, body/mind/spirit , health, and children’s books. (Pictured left are Anne Pritchard, Becky, Nancy, Marilyn Jax, Frank Silva, and Colleen Baldrica. Not pictured is Lynne Eldridge.) </div><div><br /> </div><div>On Saturday, December 6, the day before we left for Mexico, we spent the afternoon at Buon Giorno, an Italian restaurant and wine bar in Mendota Heights. We loved being surrounded by bottles of fine vino from Italy and we even did a little tasting. </div><br /><div>“The Color of Authors” is carrying on without us (but displaying our books) while we are gone. We look forward to rejoining them in February. </div><br /><div>Becky & Nancy</div>Nancy Manahan and Becky Bohanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09599183856626258686noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4182320155610546312.post-5482929510953008652008-12-26T06:16:00.000-08:002008-12-26T06:32:10.383-08:00John, a Light on My Path<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEheS-DqxSNhw_3jYGL_NIZdcHLIOvkFTh1quGYfBbQdMna0jqDoKMDuuS3wcIqUIcxiYM_rj8BilwG1jwOExZyLXF8PqdiruQu00sddPpYK6tu7kwEWFThH5K8HJ97HJs3klwo8OhXl70s/s1600-h/John+Osnes+B%26W.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5284104057104157586" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 240px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 320px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEheS-DqxSNhw_3jYGL_NIZdcHLIOvkFTh1quGYfBbQdMna0jqDoKMDuuS3wcIqUIcxiYM_rj8BilwG1jwOExZyLXF8PqdiruQu00sddPpYK6tu7kwEWFThH5K8HJ97HJs3klwo8OhXl70s/s320/John+Osnes+B%26W.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div>In the workshops and presentation that Nancy & I give based on our book <em>Living Consciously, Dying Gracefully: A Journey with Cancer and Beyond</em>, we often ask participants: What makes a good death?</div><div><br />The answers include no pain, time to say good-bye, finishing one’s business, having those you love by your side, being free of anxiety, and being at peace. </div><div><br />These elements can be achieved when one is dying of disease and has the time to prepare consciously for the end, as Diane Manahan did. Her extraordinarily good death is one reason her story is so inspiring. </div><div><br />But what if a person does not have that time? </div><div><br />Last month an old friend from high school, John Osnes, stepped off the curb in Los Angeles one night, and within minutes he was lying on the pavement, having been beaten up and then run over in a road rage incident. </div><div><br />How could his death ever be considered a good death? That is was quick? That he didn’t linger in pain? Those aren’t very satisfactory answers. I don’t know that there are any. </div><div><br />A sudden death may be hardest on the loved ones, such as John’s beloved sister, Kris. How could this have happened? How can one go on when everything is changed? </div><div><br />Quickly come all the arrangements, the phone calls, the obituary, the finances, the notifications, the reality within the unreal situation. In a way, the tasks help loved ones get through the first few days and through the shock, but not through the grief. That will last a long, long time. </div><div><br />I am grateful to John Osnes for a friendship of long ago that was more important to me than I realized at the time. In our small rural Midwestern town, he was a gay teenager. He bravely wore his hair longer than any other guy in Madelia, sang beautifully, played the piano brilliantly, but was harassed by his schoolmates. I was a lesbian teenager, in love for the first time-- with his sister Kris. For a couple of years, John and I formed an unspoken bond in our isolation. Once, over pizza in the nearby “city” of Mankato, we confided our sexuality and our heartaches openly to each other. </div><div><br />Thank you, John, for who you were . . . and for being a light on my path.</div><div> </div><div></div><div>Becky</div><div> </div><div></div><div>P.S. For more information about John Osnes, visit <a href="http://www.johnosnes.com/">http://www.johnosnes.com/</a>.</div><div></div>Nancy Manahan and Becky Bohanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09599183856626258686noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4182320155610546312.post-76430055456479283462008-05-12T07:29:00.001-07:002008-12-11T11:57:32.984-08:00WOW!<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgBAlIDrZSW8t09vVbfnGJLQfUhcsHN6YyPU43eTsTU5sdZIQYBJAFb2BamiIVy_uTllRDV5gtteu4UHPywtGwTrPUfXklMzP1vfTQlySwCxUPBgR8m2nrTQFdBULRiGNc4S8-1u5OvpRM/s1600-h/WOW+gear.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5199499238208938690" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgBAlIDrZSW8t09vVbfnGJLQfUhcsHN6YyPU43eTsTU5sdZIQYBJAFb2BamiIVy_uTllRDV5gtteu4UHPywtGwTrPUfXklMzP1vfTQlySwCxUPBgR8m2nrTQFdBULRiGNc4S8-1u5OvpRM/s320/WOW+gear.JPG" border="0" /></a><br /><div></div><br />Nancy & I are settling into being back home in Minneapolis. It feels luxurious to have the summer stretching out before us with no big commitments. Except for local events around <em>Living Consciously, Dying Gracefully</em> (like last week’s workshop for 100 Metro Area Hospice volunteers), we’re hanging up our book-touring shoes. We may go camping at Minnesota state parks, but mostly we’ll be home at the keyboard, in a hammock or on long, leisurely walks and bike rides along Minnehaha Creek and the Mississippi River. Life is sweet.<br /><br />In looking over the entries of the past months, we realize that we’ve strayed from one purpose of this blog—news about what’s happening with the book. Sales of <em>Living Consciously, Dying Gracefully: A Journey with Cancer and Beyond</em> are slow but steady. We’ve been receiving a monthly check from our publisher for between $50 and $300.<br /><br />More importantly, the book has won a number of awards this spring, including USA Book News Best Books of 2007, an Eric Hoffer Award, and a Midwest Independent Publishing Best Books Award. <br /><br />But the award that might have pleased Diane Manahan the most is the WOW—Women on Writing—Award for <a href="http://www.wow-womenonwriting.com/2008/03/reader-views-announces-best-book-in.html">Best Women’s Literature of 2008</a>. Given that Diane was a champion of women and a writer herself, we think she would be thrilled by this recognition.<br /><br />In addition to a $100 stipend, The WOW Award also included a gift pack. Nancy and I each received a pink tote bag with a baseball cap, a timer for writing exercises, and a shirt that say “Not now, I’m writing!” We love WOW’s whimsical <a href="http://www.wow-womenonwriting.coml/">website</a>, devoted to the encouragement of women writers. Many thanks to Angela, Monica, and the others at WOW for the good work they do. It is important to hear women speaking in our own voices—in print, on television, in movies and politics, and on the Internet. Write on, sisters!!!Nancy Manahan and Becky Bohanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09599183856626258686noreply@blogger.com0